How to Choose the Right Firmness: Soft, Medium, or Super Soft

When shopping for a fantasy dildo, one of the most important decisions is firmness. The right squish level can make the difference between a toy you love and one that sits unused. In this guide, we'll break down soft, medium, and super soft options, including what terms like OO20 and OO30 mean, so you can choose with confidence.

Firmness affects more than just feel—it influences insertion ease, texture sensation, and even how well a toy stays in place. Whether you're new to fantasy toys or a seasoned collector, understanding these differences will help you make a choice that fits your body and preferences.

What Do Firmness Numbers Mean?

You'll often see firmness described with numbers like OO20, OO30, or OO50. These refer to the Shore durometer scale, specifically the OO scale used for very soft materials. Lower numbers mean softer silicone. For example, OO20 is super soft, OO30 is soft, and OO50 is medium-firm. Knowing this helps you compare toys across brands, including Tentickle's handmade collection.

Softer silicones (OO20) are extremely squishy and flexible, often bending easily. They're great for comfort but can be trickier to insert if the toy is long or thin. Firmer options (OO50) hold their shape better and provide more pressure, which some users prefer for G-spot or prostate stimulation.

• OO20: super soft, very squishy, ideal for comfort and gentle play
• OO30: soft, balanced between squish and support, good for most users
• OO50: medium-firm, holds shape, provides more pressure

Soft vs Medium vs Super Soft: Which Is Right for You?

If you're new to fantasy dildos, medium (OO30) is often a safe starting point. It offers enough squish to feel comfortable but enough firmness to make insertion easy. Many Tentickle toys, like the Nemonee 'Trick Or Treat' #2 soft (OO30) GITD, are made in this softness, giving you a good balance of texture and flexibility.

Super soft (OO20) is perfect for those who love a plush, yielding feel. It's excellent for long wear or if you have sensitivity issues. However, very soft toys can be harder to guide, especially with larger sizes. On the other hand, if you prefer a more substantial sensation, medium-firm (OO50) like the Woodsman 'Morpheus' mini medium (OO50) provides a firmer presence that many find satisfying.

• Beginners: start with OO30 (soft) for a balanced experience
• Sensitivity or comfort: choose OO20 (super soft) for maximum squish
• Pressure or precision: opt for OO50 (medium-firm) for more structure

How to Test Firmness Before You Buy

Reading descriptions helps, but nothing beats hands-on testing. Some brands offer sample squares or small toys in different firmnesses. You can also look for videos or reviews that show the toy being squeezed. In the Tentickle store, products like the Skwee or Greb come in various firmness options, and customer reviews often mention how squishy they feel.

Another practical tip: consider the toy's size and shape. A thick, short toy in super soft can be easier to handle than a long, thin one. If you're unsure, reach out to the maker—many small shops are happy to advise. And remember, you can always buy a smaller version in a different firmness to test before committing to a larger piece.

• Look for demo videos or photos showing the toy being squeezed
• Read customer reviews for real-world squish feedback
• Start with a mini or smaller toy to test firmness preferences

Caring for Different Firmnesses

Super soft silicone is delicate and can tear if stretched too much, so store it carefully. Using a drawstring storage bag, like the Drawstring Storage Bags from Tentickle, protects your soft toys from dust and friction. Avoid storing them pressed against harder objects, which can cause dents.

Cleaning is similar for all firmnesses: wash with mild soap and water or a toy cleaner. Softer silicone may attract lint, so rinse after washing and let it air dry. With proper care, your toy—whether super soft or medium—will stay in great condition for years.

• Store soft toys in a drawstring bag to prevent damage
• Keep soft silicones away from direct sunlight and extreme heat
• Use water-based lubricant with all silicone toys

Choosing the right firmness is a personal journey. Start with a medium (OO30) if you're unsure, and don't be afraid to experiment with super soft or medium-firm options. Understanding the numbers and how they translate to feel will help you pick a toy you'll love. And when in doubt, ask the maker—Tentickle's handmade toys are crafted with care, and they're happy to help you find your perfect match.